Parents and SEX!

Submitted by Natalia on Tue, 01/29/2008 - 11:19.

Hello, my name is Natalia Cales, and I am a 2007-08 Staying Alive Foundation award winner from the United States. Winning this award has helped me to implement an HIV/AIDS prevention program with young girls, entitled SiHLE (Sistas, Informing, Healing, Living, Empowering). During my interactive workshops, I engage and inform young people about the decisions that they make regarding sexual activity. While conducting an introductory meeting with a community organization, which serves girls ages 13-16, several questions about sex were asked from the group. Here are a few questions from the group:

“I want to learn more about teen pregnancy and HIV/AIDS prevention.”- 15 yrs

“I want to learn more about sex and what it can do to you.”- 14yrs

“When you have HIV or AIDS how long does it take to die?”- 14 yrs

“I want to learn more about sex.”- 14 yrs

“I want to learn about how to talk and say no to boys without hesitating or being scared. And, I want to learn about choosing a good relationship, like knowing when you are in a good or bad relationship.”- 13 yrs

“I want to learn how not to follow-up two faced people.”- 14yrs

“I want to learn more about AIDS and other STDs. I also may need to go to the clinic for a check-up.” 15 yrs

Since witnessing my mother’s struggle and passing from HIV/AIDS in January 2006, I’ve dedicated my life to helping others prevent getting infected with this deadly disease. Consistently, I am amazed of how the majority of my youth participants have never had an open discussion about SEX with their parent and/or another caring adult. But, the reality is that they wish their parents would talk to them about this “hot topic”. What most adults don’t know is that talking to youth about SEX does not make them want to have SEX more. By breaking the silence and educating others about HIV, I’m sure it’ll help to beat this epidemic one person at a time!

Now, I ask you…”Have you had the talk with your parent or child about SEX and/or HIV?”

Your comments


Miss A J M(United States) , May 16th, 2008 - 01.07
L O V E! What Is It?
A relationship began on Nov. 28, 2006! One that many thought would never end but it did the following June 2007! The two in the relationship were so in love, although like every other couple they had their ups and downs but still they made it through their obstacles. The two did things together physically, educationally, and spiritually. The breakup took place and the young man out of the relationship found a new girl. During the course of the breakup and the new school year, the young man still messed with his ex and till this day they are still messing around? What should the ex girlfriend do?
Felicia $rm Port Citi (United States)(United States) , May 16th, 2008 - 01.06
Unhealthy relationships
I know this gurl whos in this relationship with this older guy and dosent know how to come out and say that she needs to move on bc shes only hurting herself!!!Especailly if he's in a relationship and has kids with his girlfriend. What do you she do? continue to be friends or stop talking to him completely???
babygirl "E"-17(United States) , May 16th, 2008 - 01.04
RelationShips
Lyfe Jennings said "They just want relation they don't want relationship" which in my words means sometimes people just want what happens behind closed doors (boys and girls) and when those doors open you don't really exist or nothing about u matters 2 them so u need 2 b careful not make the wrong decisions and think b4 u let yourself go because relationships are sometimes hard to deal with and that makes it sometimes even harder to leave the person alone or even let that person go.
Janay(United States) , May 16th, 2008 - 01.04
Relationships
I think a healthy relationship is when you can communicate with someone and there is trust in that relationship. I am in a healthy relationship. We feel that we can trust one another. I think an un healthy realtionship is when you feel that you cant trust that person but you really want to be in the relationship. I really hope that my relationship doesnt become an unhealthy one
Amar-15yrs. old , May 16th, 2008 - 01.01
Healthy&Unhealthy
I want to give an Congrats to my friend for getting out of that unhealthy relationship!!!! But I really want to talk about healthy & unhealthy relationships. I don't really think people actually know when their in an unhealthy relationship. When you and your partner can't agree on something and someone always get his/her way that is UNHEALTHY!!! When you feel like you can't win no matter what... that can effect your daily life. My friend and I have been friends since we were little girls, I know everything about her and she knows everything about me. And my friend can approve of me telling you(who ever reads this) her situation. Her and this boy she been friends with been having relations since they became on that level. But he kind of did her wrong and she took it for a while until she got to the point that its affecting her life and she couldn't take it any more. She cried wanted to hurt herself and decided that listen she was going to lose herself when she see him in school and him playing around. So I am so proud of her that she got on her two feet and stand up for her feelings. So honey I AM PROUD OF YOU!!! LOVE YA!!!!
LaDy 1221 (United States) , May 16th, 2008 - 01.00
Why?
I am in a healty relationship right now.I must say me and my boyfriend have been together for 1 year 2months and 21 days now.We have trust,honesty, balance and commitment.We know how work things out and not act stupid over it.
DASHA *08*(United States) , May 16th, 2008 - 00.59
RELATIONSHIPS
TODAY OUR SUBJECT IS ABOUT HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS. WELL MY BEST ADVICE TO ALL YOU YOUNG LADIES EVEN THOUGH I'M ONE MYSELF IS THAT IF YOU ARE IN A HEALTHY RELITIONSHIP KEEP IT THAT WAY. MAKE SURE THAT YOU AND YOUR PARTNER TALK ABOUT ANY THING THAT YOU TWO AREN'T COMFORTABLE WITH. IF SOMETHING IS ON YOUR MIND TELL HIM/HER WHAT YOU ARE THINKING. BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T YOU MIGHT KEEP IT IN YOU TWO LONG AND YOU MIGHT START LOSING IT OVER SIMPLE STUFF. SO WHEN EVER YOU GOT A PROBLEM WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP TALK TO YOU PARTNER ABOUT IT. NOW LADIES IF YOU ARE IN AN UNHELTHY RELATIONSHIP YOU NEED TO DO THE BEST YOU CAN TO TRY TO GET OUT OF IT OR TRY TO MAKE IT BETTER. IF YOU STAY IN AN UNHEALTY RELATIONSHIP FOR TWO LONG THINGS MIGHT NOT GO AS YOU WANT IT TO GO AND YOUR GOING TO BE THE ONE HURT WHEN IT ALL BOILS DOWN.
Precious P-15 years old(United States) , May 16th, 2008 - 00.58
Relatoinships
Since the last time I bloged things have been going great. I met this boy that I really like, and he likes me too. We are in a relationship, but I think I'm going to be the cause of an unhealthy relationship.Not long after our relationship started I met this other boy. He is sweet and funny.He wants me 2 be his girlfriend but at the same time he understands that I have a boyfriend.I talk to him more than I talk to my boyfriend.My friends are telling me that it's wrong but I don't really care.I feel bad about doing this to my boyfriend but I don't want to leave him.I don't know what to do I want to be with both of them but I can't.I don't really call it cheating because me and the other boy are just FRIENDS.What should I do?
lil_cecefromdablock/15(United States) , May 16th, 2008 - 00.58
Unheathy/healthy
A unhealthy relationship is no trust,lying to each other,keeping important things from each other
A healthy relationship is trust, truth, and telling your partner everything
Courtney 15yrs(United States) , May 16th, 2008 - 00.54
Unhealthy/healthy
Well me I would like a healthy real good relationship because I would not like to be a person who get the leftover. I would not want him to put me on the side.
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