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last tuesday i lost my virgenity, in a 1 min, and 30 second.and all this nut started coming out of me, and i didnt know what it was. it didnt take that long, but it was like he mad me do it. i pushed his off of me and i was so mad. i just thought to myself like wat ......... have i done. i didnt want him to be my first. and he put it in, without a condom. he had sex with alot of girls, ALOTE. but i think he used a condom each time, but not with me bcuz iu was a virgin. i'm 15, and he is 16. i just dont know. now i'm ashamed to say i'm not a virgin NOMORE. and i really dont know if i have somrthing frome hime or not. but i reallly hope, and prey to god that i dont, and that he don't. but..... latley i'v been thinking about going to his house, and just have sex with him, and this time, i got the condom for him. it just pop in and out of my mind, should i go to his house today, YES OR NO??? but i'v never got horny after that
(it happend july,16,2008 i'll never 4 get that dat thank you for hearing my story
love hazel (not real name)

i dont see why you feel you need to word your comment in such a way that it is pressureing others into celibacy everyone has their own opinions on things and most people know right from wrong as i am for one agnostic (which means i have no religion) so i can keep an open mind on others thoughts and religions, and what would you prefer the promotion of condoms on tv or having the youth of today growing up not thinkin about using a condom but just going straight ahead and potentially spreading these STI's, everyone is entitled to their own thoughts and opinions on matters so if you feel you are ready and accept what could happen then enjoy yourself you only live once just at the same time be safe and personally i would recomment using contraception, and the comment about murdering is not needed because it isnt murder because it is one cell not a person so it is not murder, and having sex before marrage is NOT! a sin, to most people sex is a way of bonding with the one you love but to others its just abit of fun, either way it should be a safe moment in life, and the only potential way of killing is from dieing from an STI not using a condom, most people have sex to bond and then when ready decide when its best to stop using a condom and try to bring a new life into the world, the last thing for me to say is not matter what religion , no mater what beliefs, follow what you think and feel is right.

in here having sex before married is taboo and there just 27% teenagers that having sex before married..thanks god because of this HIV/AIDS case in Indonesia was rarely happen..

why do you guys tell the people esp. the youth to always carry and use condom for sex? you're not giving good advice! if you think you are well *ding-ding*... you're not! using condom is preventing life not merely diseases thus it is murder on the way. you don't wanna commit murder, do you? plus, you are only to have sex after marriage. HAVING SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE IS A MORTAL SIN! showing to the people these commercials involving teenagers who are talking about sex and using contraceptives is one of the most effective ways of CORRUPTING THE YOUTH! SHAME ON THE PEOPLE WHO THOUGHT OF THESE KIND OF COMMERCIALS! SO YOU WANNA PREVENT SEXUAL DISEASES?! GUESS WHAT? THERE ARE EASY AND SINLESS WAYS OF DOING SO... 1)DON'T HAVE SEX WITH ANYONE BEFORE MARRIAGE. 2)ONLY HAVE SEX WITH THE PERSON YOU MARRIED. 3) HAVE YOURSELVES CHECKED and last 4)NEVER EVER ENTERTAIN LUSTFUL THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS. SEE?! IT'S AS EASY AS A-B-C. i hope i could affect a person. think of what you value the most... your life. think how it will affect you negatively. think that you've got a borrowed life and that true life will come after this material world. eternity is beyond this. don't put yourself to sin. just because your partner want to do it with you even if you're not married doesn't mean you should give in. THINK! just because your peers do it or the people you see do it doesn't mean you should. THINK! just because you feel h*rny doesn't mean you should indulge in lustful thoughts and actions. THINK! in the end it will always be up to you. IT DOESN'T HURT TO SAY NO. MAN OR WOMAN: YOU SHOULD PROTECT YOUR VIRGINITY. I WILL PRAY FOR YOU TO BE ENLIGHTENED. CLING AND PRAY TO GOD, TRUST ME... IT WORKS. GOD BLESS YOU!=)

clap is a slang term for Gonorrhoea. If you have slept with guys and not used condoms then it is possible that you might have picked up an STI. Read about the symptoms of gonorrhoea here - http://www.staying-alive.org/en/knowledge/otherstis/gonorrhoea The important thing is - you must go to your doctor or sexual health clinic as soon as possible, it might be nothing, but if you have caught something you need to get it treated. Gonorrhoea is easily treatable so don't worry too much. Make sure you always use condoms in future to prevent anything like this happening again.

i have slept with a few guys now and have started to get a light brown and smelly discharge in my underware.Im scared that it could be clap.Could you help me and if it is clap can i get rid of it? thanks x

In our life we always have the choice, so when we are in front of such a big decision take all the time you need, and COMMUNICATE without any Taboo, “It’s your Life It’s your choice”....

i think your under pressure to have sex. i was in a similar situation myself with the very first and to date the last guy i dated. he was experienced with other women and i wasnt. he kept pressuring me for a sexual relationship which now i can see with hindsight i was not at that time ready for. i had no clue about condoms or any form of sexual precautions. i was a 20 year old innocent virgin. he was 26. he told me i would have to do something sexual and fearing i would lose him i agreed to oral sex though not for penetrative sex. he started to fool around my body i was highly uncomfortable and he commanded that i open my legs for him to perform an oral. i regret ever doing so to this date it felt horrible and repulsive. fortunately i refused to perform an oral on him which was my saving of face - i couldnt do something as intimate as that on a man i was not comfortable with. later i found out that he had had over 8 sexual partners and that he had lied when he told me he had had only one serious relationship -oh the lies! he also told me that i would be safe as i would not be having sex. guess what? he was wrong! i did catch a STD from him. immagine my blind panic when i found i was having a discharge which should never have been there? it was hell. i was nearly suicidal with fear. i couldnt tell my mum as i was dead scared. i finally mustered the courage to tell her something about it. i had indeed caught a std - HPV and it can lead to cervical cancer later on. DONT PUT YOUR FUTURE ON THE LINE!!!! its definetly not worth the few minutes or seconds of pleasure. one night can be a life time of regrets. so yes you CAN CATCH stds from oral sex then imagine what else you might catch from sex? ALWAYS be selfish on matters such as these. never put your health at risk. health is wealth. what the hell can you do if you dont have a healthy body? it is YOUR duty to protect it. it is YOUR responsibility. DONT listen to her on this matter. it is YOUR LIFE - you are responsible for managing it well and keeping your body safe, secure and sound. If you dont take care of it - it will be your folly. dont play with fire. PREVENTION IS ALWAYS ALWAYS BETTER THAN CURE. i have stayed well away from guys on a sexual level from that date. and guess what? that guy was only after me for a sexual relationship -as soon as he saw i was firm on my resolve not to fool around any more he left. and oh boy was i glad to see him dissapear. he turned out to be a prize class jerk towards the end. i still havent had sex but oh boy am i happy about not having had sex. i am keeping it for the right man who will marry me. sex within marriage with no fears about getting pregnant that is myway. it was a brutally hard lesson i had to learn learn from my mistake - you dont need to fall into a visible pitfall - avoid it, take precautions -GET HER TESTED before sex! and WEAR A CONDOM if you do have sex. but remember you must be EMOTIONALLY ready for a sexual relationship, just because she is the first girl you dated doesnt mean you have to start having sex with her. may be a better gal might come along - having sex for the first time is a very personal and a very intimate decision to make let NO ONE pressure you. it is you own decision to make - ensure you think about it objectively and clearly without the pressure from her to have sex. i think you should get a bit away from her and give yourself a bit of space and time to think things over clearly before engaging in sex. the physical closeness can REALLY cloud your thinking. trust me i know! i had never intended to have a sexual relationship prior to marriage. but a month after i had known the guy and due to pressure from him - i felt compelled to oblige - but i had a nagging feeling that it was wrong. i threw caution to the wind and fooled around with him -only to face the first greatest error i had made in my life. i hated myself for having lost control. i still have a hard time forgiving myself. remember do NOT RUSH into anything. give your self the space and time away from her to think things over clearly. the day you lose your 'technical virginity' is an important hallmark in your life. make it a special thing where you made the decision wisely not something you blundered. your body might say one thing but emotionally you might not be ready for sex. that was how i was. if you feel pressured. it means you are not ready for a sexual relationship yet. dont feel a sense of destiny and that you HAVE to have sex with your first gf - it can be an illusion. if you still feel pressured and she doesnt understand perhaps you might have to consider whether she is the right gal for you? perhaps someone who hasnt had sex would put less pressure on you. i realise it was because the guy was wayyy more experienced than myself on the sexual level that was the cause of the tension in the relationship - i felt forced /compelled to meet up to his sexual level. that put a real strain on the relationship. remember once you have gone all the way you have gone all the way. are you ready for it? take a good hard look at yourself. its your life. its your decision. make it objectively clear of emotional pressures taking your future into account.
1. look up all the STD advice websites - take a good hard look at std pictures -it can scare the hell out of ya! =)
2. Think things over - are you REALLY REALLY ready to go all the way and have sex?
3.Is she the right girl for you?
4.Learn about protecting yourself if you do decide to go all the way and have sex.
hope you make the right and the wise decision.
Remember: To enjoy life/a relationship you dont need to have sex. dont let One Night be a Life Time of Regrets.
Love Life Love Health.
Hugs!
Angel

i think they are goooooodddd

Save sex use condom!