Jealous Girlfriend
I have been going out with my girlfriend for just over three months. Things started off well but recently she has become very jealous. If she sees me chatting to another girl she will give me grief - accusing me of fancying them, even though I don’t - they’re just friends. It’s got so bad that she won’t even let me go out clubbing with my mates without her tagging along. She says she can’t trust me, even though I’ve never cheated on her. I’m seriously thinking about dumping her as it’s getting too much. What should I do?
GIRL'S VIEW
Li
She might have had a bad experience in the past, a previous boyfriend might have cheated on her and that’s why she’s so paranoid now. Try talking to her and getting to explain why she feels the way she does. Reassure her that you’d never cheat on her.
Also you might want to be extra aware of how you act around girls as sometimes harmless banter can come across as flirting.If that doesn’t work then you might want to consider your future together.
She might have had a bad experience in the past, a previous boyfriend might have cheated on her and that’s why she’s so paranoid now. Try talking to her and getting to explain why she feels the way she does. Reassure her that you’d never cheat on her.
Also you might want to be extra aware of how you act around girls as sometimes harmless banter can come across as flirting.If that doesn’t work then you might want to consider your future together.
Ludo
You shouldn’t have to put up with this kind of behaviour. It’s not fair on you. She can’t stop you from going out clubbing with your friends. Doesn’t she realise that this is only going to drive you away. If it’s one thing men hate it’s over-controlling girlfriends!
You shouldn’t have to put up with this kind of behaviour. It’s not fair on you. She can’t stop you from going out clubbing with your friends. Doesn’t she realise that this is only going to drive you away. If it’s one thing men hate it’s over-controlling girlfriends!
BOY'S VIEW
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girl(England) , August 12th, 2008 - 11.23
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Anonymous(England) , August 12th, 2008 - 11.21
I think your girlfriend is very insecure. You may not have cheated on her but she doesn't know that. A secure person holds trust and only looses it once it is broken. I think your girlfriend is just scared that you are going to give her a reason to break her trust. Thats all shes scared of. It's hard for people who trust to understand those that don't just as its hard for people who don't trust to understand those that do. I think it just boils down to your past, if you have always felt safe and secure in your past you do not have these kind of trust issues, if you haven't always had a secure past you do, and you feel left behind the people that do trust and have easy lives. To not be trusted may not be fun but not to be able to trust is worse , I think.
zeyla(Indonesia) , December 27th, 2007 - 23.47
if i were u, i will talk to her. tell her that u dont like her behavior..and if she keep like that..tell her that u'll leave her..
and ask her why she doesnt trust u..
both of u must understand each other..
and ask her why she doesnt trust u..
both of u must understand each other..
laroba(Nigeria) , October 16th, 2007 - 14.17
What you should actually do is get her to know your likes and dislikes. also give her your word, but don't fail in keeping them, coz you might make her start distrusthing boys.give her time to get use to you
the man(Canada) , October 16th, 2007 - 11.52
i would give her one more chance. if she didn't quit with it i would have to break it off
