Archive for April, 2010

Facing The Facts

Posted by Carina Kolodny on April 29th, 2010

Prison officials across the United States may have bitten off more than they can chew with their controversial statement: NO CONDOM DISTRIBUTION IN PRISON. Their logic is simple: sexual activities are technically disallowed for inmates, so distribution of condoms sends out the wrong message.

But this black and white policy leaves little room for reality: inmates DO engage in sexual activities and the rate of HIV among the incarcerated is seven fold to that of the general population.

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In the past months, Democrats in the United States have been celebrating the passing of their health care reform bill: a triumph after the embittered battle that nearly split the country in two. However, many liberals are not celebrating one detail of the bill: the revival of abstinence-only sex education.

There are three predominant forms of sex education in the United States: comprehensive, abstinence plus and abstinence only. Abstinence only is the most extreme, approaching sex education with the assumption that all young people will abstain until marriage and giving no instruction on safe-sex practices.

Hundreds of statistics, thousands of sex educators and millions of young people can attest that the abstinence assumption has no basis in reality. In fact, students in school districts that adopt abstinence-only sex education are more likely to get pregnant and more likely to get an STD than their peers enrolled in comprehensive sex education. The logic, again, is simple: my teenager should not be having sex and educating them about HOW to have sex sends the wrong message.

While teenagers and prison inmates are quite dissimilar, these two situations are strikingly alike. We have an ideological rule in direct contrast with reality. Prison inmates are having sex. Teenagers are having sex. They’re going to continue having sex whether there is education available or not, whether there are condoms available or not.
So why not make options, education and protection readily available?

What’s your view on this? Is the abstinence only approach outdated and unrealistic? Or do you feel that by talking about sex you are sending out the wrong message?

Drop us a comment…

This post is by our resident blogger Carina Kolodny

Carina Kolodny is a writer and expert coffee shop loiterer based out of NYC. When not writing (or loitering) she can usually be found traveling the world or jumping out of airplanes. She became interested in HIV education while working with the Red Cross in Fiji. This was an enriching though terrifying experience as she hates snakes almost as much as she hates grammar. She counts Fiji, Cuba and Tanzania as second homes and strongly believes in the power of self love and red lipstick.


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Guest Blog: Kicesie Drew

Posted by Guest Blogger on April 27th, 2010

Hello Everybody! This is Kicesie from YouTube. Today I really want to talk to you about a trend I’ve noticed.  I’m hearing about teen pregnancy rates lowering in certain areas, but not because youth are using protection. Rather, it’s because Oral and Anal sex is becoming their substitute. What seems to these teens as a clever solution to, often, their only reservation regarding sex – pregnancy – is actually something that could ultimately be a threat to their lives?

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Okay, let me break it down for you. I get around one hundred messages a day from a wide range of ages, cultures from all around the world, and both men and women. Mostly, however, it’s teens and young adults who write to me. And avoiding pregnancy seems to be the greatest concerns holding them back from having sex. STD prevention is rarely something brought up. I think this is because they view pregnancy as permanent while most young people I talk to see just about every STD as ‘fixable’. To them it’s a temporary, however embarrassing, inconvenience.

So when a couple comes up with the decision to engage in oral or anal sex and simply avoid vaginal penetration as the cure to their ‘pregnancy dilemma’, there is no thought given to using a condom.

And so I hear the other emails… from people who have reaped the results of that. They write to me after their doctors have discovered they have HIV or HPV in their throat. Take a look at the fact that HPV has become the leading cause of throat cancer, over that of smoking, and I think we’re seeing evidence of this attitude of, ‘avoid pregnancy, avoid the inconvenience of condoms, and still enjoy sexual pleasure.’ The ramifications are yet to be measured, but I believe they are going to really scare us.

Now the reason this is so important to those of you reading, here, on a site dedicated to HIV/AIDS prevention is the fact that anal sex is one of THE easiest ways to spread the virus, probably coming in second only to sharing needles. When you have anal sex, there is significantly more tearing of the tissues than with vaginal sex. This opens up the body to either send out the virus or to let it in. That makes anal sex without a condom and with someone you can’t absolutely verify doesn’t have HIV nothing short of Russian Roulette.

So let this be a message of caution. Getting creative and avoiding vaginal entry as your solution to any risks associated with sex is naive. Remember that with any sexual contact, protection is a must.  Use a condom with every sexual act every single time. Also, because the anus doesn’t naturally produce lubricant like the vaginal canal, be sure to use an appropriate lubricant as well to reduce your chances of tearing (or to at least reduce the severity of that tearing as micro-tears are nearly guaranteed).

And as I always say, remember that I’m not a doctor. I’m just a peer-educator who cares about your safety, happiness and well-being. So if you have additional questions, talk to your doctor, talk to your local health clinic. Educate yourself! The professionals are there to be sure you have access to any and all information you need and above all else, stay safe. Use the research and technology out there that so many people have worked on to make sure you never have to deal with a life-threatening illness you could have avoided with the simple application of a condom.

This is Kicesie, signing out.  Have a smart, safe and wonderful day!

Kicesie Drew is a Peer Sex Educator on YouTube, you may recognize her as to date  she has acheived over 200 million views of her channel on YouTube .

Check out the video called “Condom 101″ below to see what she is all about or visit her website

www.YouTube.com/Kicesie

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What did you think of Kicesie’s debut article for us? Would you like to see more of her on our blog?

Or do you want to ask her any questions about what she was talking about?

Drop us a comment below…

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World Malaria Day – Change For The Better

Posted by Staying Alive Editor on April 23rd, 2010

Sunday 25th April marks World Malaria Day.

Malaria is one of the leading causes of death in many countries around the world, in Sub-Saharan Africa in particular it causes more deaths than any other disease, accounting for up to 2.7 million deaths every year.

Many of these deaths are preventable; and while Malaria can’t be cured, it can be easily treated if detected in time.

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A country in Sub-Saharan Africa who are doing something about Malaria is Zambia,  The Butterfly Tree a charity based in Zambia are raising awareness of this vital issue by launching a charity track called ‘Change for the Better’ by one of Zambia’s leading talents TY2. You can pick up the track across many music outlets throughout Zambia, or if you live elsewhere you can download it on The Butterfly Tree website from Sunday.

80% of the track’s revenue is going directly to the The Butterfly Tree, meaning your money will be helping to provide educational workshops, mosquito nets and malaria testing kits – all of which are hugely essential in the fight against Malaria.

So take a couple of minutes to consider what a couple of dollars/pounds could buy you this Sunday, use this as an opportunity to save a child’s life – and add to your music collection in the process

Visit   http://www.thebutterflytree.org.uk/pages/2010/africa-malaria-2010/ for more info…

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Married But Available

Posted by Guest Blogger on April 20th, 2010

I wonder at what age people grow up, both male and female. I say this because I recently turned 21 this month and I feel like a fairly responsible adult and a recent brush with my “past” told me I am a lot more mature than many of the other “adults” that I used to mix with.

So what triggered all this? MBAs, I’m not talking about the degree, I’m talking about guys who are “Married But Available”. I know it’s common here in Lusaka, Zambia for a married man to hook up with a young girl just for sex, with no consideration for the risks that are attached.

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So the other day I had a conversation with an ex of mine; Jack, while it started off ok, it ended up wrong on so many levels.

We chatted for a while about what’s new and old and about the mutual friends we had and still have. After a while he went quiet and asked.

“Are you still a virgin?”

Some men are so predictable! I knew that was coming and I told him it was definitely none of his business.

Then he made a comment about how he would like to get with me for old times sake. At this point my mind was racing and retrieving every single thing I knew about him currently and I know that Jack is like 32, married, two children and a great job. He has everything!

“Aren’t you married?” I asked.

“Yeah I am but for you I’m still available,” he said and I could even see that cocky smirk on his face right now thinking to himself ‘I’ve still got it’.

I laughed and thought wow; this is the man I fell for ages ago! A cheater! He cheated on me with my friends and he cheated with me (I had no idea) and he said his vows yet he will readily tell me that he is married but available!

Obviously everyone has a reason why they would have a relationship with a married man: money, sex, fame, jobs, clothes or a chance to be a second wife but does anyone ever stop to think of the risks? I’m not talking about those moments you spend telling your friends you’ll stop seeing him after his wife beat you up then he calls and it’s all good. Or that time you are half drunk and staring at yourself in the bathroom mirror thinking “Is this what I have become?”

I am talking about the risk of contracting HIV because be sure, you’re not the only one that the MBA is available for leaving you much more likely to catch something from them. Most HIV drivers are involved here. We have unprotected sex, inter-generational sex, transactional sex (because MBAs are loaded baby), and cheating in ‘supposedly’ monogamous relationships especially the institution of marriage.

So think twice next time you are thinking of getting yourself involved with an MBA because you could be finishing it with a lot more than you bargained for.

Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation to Martha? Having a guy or girl hitting on you who you know has already committed himself to one person? What would you do? And how would you react if you found out your other half was making themselves available for old flames?

Drop us a comment…

Or take the related poll on our Facebook Fanpage

This is a guest blog post by Martha Kundwe, a member of the Ignite Zambia street team.

Media and communication is everything to Martha, a second year journalism student who loves to read and surf the net. Martha loves being herself, and believes everyone should embrace their uniqueness and individuality!


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RIP Clint Walters

Posted by Staying Alive Editor on April 14th, 2010

After our office heard about the shocking and sad news that HIV campaigner and long time friend of Staying Alive Clint Walters had passed away aged just 30 years of age, we wanted to pay our respects to him.  Clint was one of the first young people in the UK to publicly declare his HIV status.  He used his experience to motivate and encourage other young people to get informed, get tested and protect themselves.  Clint also featured in one of our very first PSAs.

Out of respect and knowing that Clint had a tight circle of friends around him, we thought we would give  them the opportunity to pay their respects, and write the article in their own words.  Louise Gillespie-Smith, an image and confidence coach and one of Clint’s closest friends, shares her thoughts below.

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Photo: Taken from the RIP Clint Walters Facebook Page

Our loving and inspirational friend Clint Walters passed away on Sunday 4th April, aged just 30 yrs old.  Clint contracted HIV when he was just 17, there wasn’t much support in the UK for this illness back then so Clint travelled to San Francisco to work and study with the University of California Aids Health project. The support he received there gave him positive hope and helped him come to terms with his illness. Instead of letting it defeat him he took the decision to devote his life to helping young people back in UK who were dealing with HIV and AIDS. On returning to London he set up his charity Health Initiatives, he was the support for young people all over the country who had just been diagnosed, were fearful of actually going for a test or maybe had a loved one with the disease.

Over the past 10 years Clint took part in a BBC documentary where he had to train to run the London Marathon in 6 months, was an ambassador for MTV’s Staying Alive, he took part in the London to Paris cycle ride, had a regular column in Positive Nation magazine, led the march at London Gay Pride and was always in the papers raising awareness of his cause. In 2005 he “was amazed and grateful” to be granted a fellowship by the Winston Churchill Memorial Trust to research HIV, clinical projects, support and educational programmes for young people in the Netherlands, South Africa and the USA. It was an invaluable chance of a life time, and ultimately life changing experience for him.

No matter what pressures Clint went through he stayed determined to his cause, even when he had down days he would come back fighting. He was loved by many and there will be a huge gaping hole in our world without him. Following are quotes from some of his closest friends

Damon Nicholls, who had known Clint from his school days, said “Clint had an innocence and light prior to his diagnosis and that he retained to the end. He always liked to see the best in people. His cup was always half full not half empty. He inspired me”

Mark Fell, who helped him with his charity, said “Clint was always an inspiration to many people, who’s heart he touched with his positive energy. He always managed to put a smile on everyone’s face and if you were feeling down he helped to pull you back up again. Always a bundle of energy and he will be missed by all who were close to him and even those who were just knew him from walking down the street. A walking Angel.”

Alison, another great friend, said “When I first met Clint we just clicked immediately he had the cheekiest grin and laugh I’d ever seen in someone and this started an amazing friendship with him. His life was his charity work which he lived, breathed and slept 24/7 if necessary… there’s just too many things I’m going to miss, I could talk about my time with him forever,  I’ll miss him so much.”

Clint was in one of our Staying Alive PSAs, way back in 1999. Check it out below:

http://www.vimeo.com/10899368

Clint Walters inspired many – too many to fit on one blog post, so if you would like to pay your respects please leave a message in the comment box below…


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And The Winners Are…

Posted by Staying Alive Editor on April 12th, 2010

Hot off the official notification, Shuga and Travis McCoy’s Unbeaten Track have picked up Gold awards at this year’s World Media Festival, adding to Staying Alive’s list of award winning programmes.

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In the unlikely event that you missed these two great programmes (how would you have missed them?), the Unbeaten Track follows Travis McCoy, frontman of Gym Class Heroes and Staying Alive Foundation Ambassador, as he visits youth led projects responding to the challenge of HIV/AIDS in South Africa, Philippines and India. Travis McCoy’s Unbeaten Track won in the category of global issues documentaries – watch it here:

http://www.vimeo.com/7920098

Our first ever African set drama series, Shuga, took home Gold in the health public relations category for its depiction of love and relationships in a time of HIV/AIDS.  Shot in Kenya, Shuga follows the trials and lives of a group of eight young people as they live their lives to the fullest with shocking consequences. Watch Shuga here:

Episode 1:  Friday Nights

http://www.vimeo.com/7775923

Episode 2:  The Morning After

http://www.vimeo.com/7853396

Episode 3: Tomorrow

http://www.vimeo.com/7937927

To celebrate these awards, we’re giving you a chance to win an exclusive limited edition copy of Shuga.  All you need to do is leave a comment telling us your favourite character/scene in Shuga – and why.

Your comments help us continue to make bigger and better, award winning shows!

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The Perfect Kiss?

Posted by Staying Alive Editor on April 6th, 2010

Have you ever been in a relationship in which  has fizzled out over time? If so,  according to this promotional video by Durex and Philips, there are steps you can take to rekindle that romantic spark, so don’t go throwing in the towel just yet.

This video – “The Perfect Kiss” talks us through the four stages that every relationship goes through over time and how you can pick things up when they start to go sour.

These stages are:

Stage One: Get a room phase
Stage Two: Tracksuit phase
Stage Three: Move in phase
Stage Four: Wake up and get kissing phase

This video even gives us a formula for the perfect kiss:

Kiss Factor = (Ix(K+A)/E-L

But Algebra isn’t really my strong point so you’ll have to watch the video to find out what that means…

So what do you think? Do you think this is purely a promotional piece? Or do you think the truth is in the formula?

Drop us a comment and let us know…

http://www.vimeo.com/10724313
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