This is a blog post in response to I cheated on my girlfriend – help!

Anonymous, your story struck a chord for me, it reminded me of the familiar position I had to endure due to my ex boyfriend. See he cheated on me and it really did have a toll on me. Everything was well, we had issues, as does every relationship, but I never doubted the fact that he loved me and he would put me first. But things started to go downhill after he went to this party with his friends. A friend of mine called and said she saw him dancing seductively with this girl and heavily flirting with her, I brushed it off, I knew that was his personality and I didn’t think I had anything to worry about.

Then he started to act weird, he wouldn’t lie to me directly but he omitted information and he wasn’t affectionate to me anymore. I thought something was wrong with me so I tried to speak to him to find out what it was but he always said nothing and the more I asked, the more defensive, aggravated and upset he got.

So I decided to figure out the solution on my own. I tried being nicer to him, avoiding arguments, cooking whatever he wanted, spending more time with him – but the more I tried, the more he pushed me away. I assumed he had fallen out of love with me. I knew I was losing the man I love and there was nothing I could do. It was tearing me apart. Slowly I just decided to begin to emotionally detach myself away from the relationship.

One day, when I was contemplating leaving him, the phone rang and he rushed to answer, I picked up the receiver quietly in another room. He was arguing with a woman and he told her that his life was going fine until he slept with her. I can’t explain what I did next; all I remember is standing before him with tears streaming down my face. He looked shocked and immediately tried to hug me.

After hanging up the phone, he proceeded to tell me that he met this girl in a party and she gave him her number, he wasn’t sure why he called her but he did and she proceeded to state that she wanted to be with him. One day he gave in to her intentions. Sadly, he got an STI due to her… thankfully, it wasn’t HIV.

I know what its like to be hurt due to silence and that one unguarded moment. Don’t make that moment be the ruin of your life. I hope that you tell her the truth, sooner rather than later and hopefully you have learnt from your irresponsible actions.