Comments on: I cheated on my girlfriend – help! http://www.staying-alive.org/en/2010/03/i-cheated-on-my-girlfriend-help/ MTV's youth HIV and AIDS prevention and awareness campaign. Tue, 07 Sep 2010 19:40:45 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Emma Shearer http://www.staying-alive.org/en/2010/03/i-cheated-on-my-girlfriend-help/comment-page-1/#comment-549 Emma Shearer Thu, 17 Jun 2010 13:48:47 +0000 http://www.staying-alive.org/en/?p=441#comment-549 If you lose her and want to get her back after she leaves you then we can help you If you lose her and want to get her back after she leaves you then we can help you

]]> By: aaron http://www.staying-alive.org/en/2010/03/i-cheated-on-my-girlfriend-help/comment-page-1/#comment-240 aaron Fri, 23 Apr 2010 19:17:09 +0000 http://www.staying-alive.org/en/?p=441#comment-240 Lol typos damm touch screen phones lol Lol typos damm touch screen phones lol

]]> By: aaron http://www.staying-alive.org/en/2010/03/i-cheated-on-my-girlfriend-help/comment-page-1/#comment-239 aaron Fri, 23 Apr 2010 19:14:59 +0000 http://www.staying-alive.org/en/?p=441#comment-239 I know from expenince man i did everything the wrong way tried yo hide it etc ate me up i hated myself for so long and just last night ive finally been able to forgive myself and its empowering im on top of the world i got soo lucky she stayed and we are rebuilding and talking about marrige etc and i know my personal self that it cant and wont ever happrn agian shes the love of my life lol strry i got off track your supose yo be getting advice lol make it simple process 1 tell her 2 forgive yourself 3 dont. get jelous and over bearing she wont cheat but may leave u for this 4 rebuild the trust let her know where u are 24/7 2 reason it will let her know you are behaveing and also let her know u want her im every part of your life no secerts no this is my thing if you say play a sport involve her dont have friends she haaent meet either and if she disapproves listen cause in the end she will be ur life and family not ur "boys" think about the future.not. the haveing fun bs now if you wanna get drunk and "get some" do it with her lol if you talk to her. she will do guy fun stuff with you just be open and ask her u knoe from experince with all that good luck man. And uf you see this steph i love you!!! I know from expenince man i did everything the wrong way tried yo hide it etc ate me up i hated myself for so long and just last night ive finally been able to forgive myself and its empowering im on top of the world i got soo lucky she stayed and we are rebuilding and talking about marrige etc and i know my personal self that it cant and wont ever happrn agian shes the love of my life lol strry i got off track your supose yo be getting advice lol make it simple process 1 tell her 2 forgive yourself 3 dont. get jelous and over bearing she wont cheat but may leave u for this 4 rebuild the trust let her know where u are 24/7 2 reason it will let her know you are behaveing and also let her know u want her im every part of your life no secerts no this is my thing if you say play a sport involve her dont have friends she haaent meet either and if she disapproves listen cause in the end she will be ur life and family not ur “boys” think about the future.not. the haveing fun bs now if you wanna get drunk and “get some” do it with her lol if you talk to her. she will do guy fun stuff with you just be open and ask her u knoe from experince with all that good luck man. And uf you see this steph i love you!!!

]]> By: aaron http://www.staying-alive.org/en/2010/03/i-cheated-on-my-girlfriend-help/comment-page-1/#comment-237 aaron Fri, 23 Apr 2010 18:57:17 +0000 http://www.staying-alive.org/en/?p=441#comment-237 Tell her dont let her "find out" i dudnt tell me and whew in the long run you may lose her but she does know your human and fuck up and will forgive you and respect you but not stay with you. But if you are ment to be it will work out just give her space and dont start thinking she will cheat cause you did she wont man. Makr sure you "check in" alot i know it may sound like no freedom but look at your dession with your freedom. And lots of love not just befging her not to go but random stuff like flowers for no reason etc BUT BEFORE ANYTHING CAN BE FIXED FORGIVE YOURSELF COMPLETELY Tell her dont let her “find out” i dudnt tell me and whew in the long run you may lose her but she does know your human and fuck up and will forgive you and respect you but not stay with you. But if you are ment to be it will work out just give her space and dont start thinking she will cheat cause you did she wont man. Makr sure you “check in” alot i know it may sound like no freedom but look at your dession with your freedom. And lots of love not just befging her not to go but random stuff like flowers for no reason etc BUT BEFORE ANYTHING CAN BE FIXED FORGIVE YOURSELF COMPLETELY

]]> By: Tarzan http://www.staying-alive.org/en/2010/03/i-cheated-on-my-girlfriend-help/comment-page-1/#comment-223 Tarzan Tue, 13 Apr 2010 12:51:45 +0000 http://www.staying-alive.org/en/?p=441#comment-223 I have just fucked up the same way you have man, I am telling my Girl friend today. I dont know how to say it to her but i know its not gonna end well. I wish u good luck bro. I have just fucked up the same way you have man, I am telling my Girl friend today. I dont know how to say it to her but i know its not gonna end well. I wish u good luck bro.

]]> By: jessy jackson http://www.staying-alive.org/en/2010/03/i-cheated-on-my-girlfriend-help/comment-page-1/#comment-213 jessy jackson Thu, 08 Apr 2010 12:15:20 +0000 http://www.staying-alive.org/en/?p=441#comment-213 just tell your girlfriend the truth, it was your own fault for drinking to much in the first place and getting yourself in that position, if that girl was allover you you should of rejected her from the very beginning of the night and you wouldn't of had this problem, get a grip and be honest and truthful like a proper boyfriend should be!!! just tell your girlfriend the truth, it was your own fault for drinking to much in the first place and getting yourself in that position, if that girl was allover you you should of rejected her from the very beginning of the night and you wouldn’t of had this problem, get a grip and be honest and truthful like a proper boyfriend should be!!!

]]> By: charley http://www.staying-alive.org/en/2010/03/i-cheated-on-my-girlfriend-help/comment-page-1/#comment-202 charley Wed, 31 Mar 2010 13:47:13 +0000 http://www.staying-alive.org/en/?p=441#comment-202 Tell your girlfriend, but i would say get tested first. I feel sorry for her although she doesn't know (i don't think). Good luck Tell your girlfriend, but i would say get tested first. I feel sorry for her although she doesn’t know (i don’t think). Good luck

]]> By: JC http://www.staying-alive.org/en/2010/03/i-cheated-on-my-girlfriend-help/comment-page-1/#comment-146 JC Sun, 28 Mar 2010 22:50:26 +0000 http://www.staying-alive.org/en/?p=441#comment-146 You know, alcohol is a drug, not only does it inhibit your judgement when driving a car, it also inhibits your judgement with people and situations. Things you would normally not do while sober you are more likely to do when drunk. This being said, what you did was wrong. You know it, that's why you feel guilty. You betrayed someone you loved and gave into temptation. You need to get it straight with her, tell her the truth, and be prepared for the consequences. Even if she does break up with you, perhaps you will learn from this experience and be all the more wiser for it. Yes, you need to get tested, but that is just an after affect of your mistake. You chose to go along with the girl and give in to what she wanted. Regarding your friends, hey, they're people too. They are not going to protect you, esp if they're drunk as well. You are accountable for your own actions. You are an adult now, it's time to own up to your own mistakes. Your friends may care about you, but at the end of the day, you have to look at yourself in the mirror and deal with the consequences of your choices. I really hope things work out for you, and that you become a wiser person from this experience. You know, alcohol is a drug, not only does it inhibit your judgement when driving a car, it also inhibits your judgement with people and situations. Things you would normally not do while sober you are more likely to do when drunk. This being said, what you did was wrong. You know it, that’s why you feel guilty. You betrayed someone you loved and gave into temptation. You need to get it straight with her, tell her the truth, and be prepared for the consequences. Even if she does break up with you, perhaps you will learn from this experience and be all the more wiser for it.
Yes, you need to get tested, but that is just an after affect of your mistake. You chose to go along with the girl and give in to what she wanted.

Regarding your friends, hey, they’re people too. They are not going to protect you, esp if they’re drunk as well. You are accountable for your own actions. You are an adult now, it’s time to own up to your own mistakes. Your friends may care about you, but at the end of the day, you have to look at yourself in the mirror and deal with the consequences of your choices.

I really hope things work out for you, and that you become a wiser person from this experience.

]]> By: alicia http://www.staying-alive.org/en/2010/03/i-cheated-on-my-girlfriend-help/comment-page-1/#comment-145 alicia Sat, 27 Mar 2010 03:50:12 +0000 http://www.staying-alive.org/en/?p=441#comment-145 from the girls point of view.... it's odd, my boyfriend, who is also 19, cheated on me last october with this girl he dated for a few weeks while we were on a break last year. TELL HER! he had maybe 4 beers tops that night, and wasnt even drunk. Said he used a condom but i dont believe him.... Honestly, you NEED to tell her. I was told over facebook by the girl he cheated on me with. And the only reason I am on here now is because whenever he is away on work, I look up ways to get over it. It broke my heart, we were just about to move in together, and now that we have I can keep better track of him.... but I hate that I feel the need to do so now. finding out by the girl, honestly still makes me cry. I have always been a very strong person, and this honestly hurts more than you know. I still dont know if he gave me anything, I suspect maybe, but even after all of his apologies, he still hasnt gotten tested. You're girlfriend will most likely forgive you, but I have come very close to leaving tyler a few times since then. It took him getting on his knees before me in tears begging me to stay and describing our future together, to get me to stay. And i still wish he would say all of those things more often. Honestly if she forgives you, show her how much you love her every chance you get! It still breaks my heart that I have to threaten leaving him in order to get him to say those sweet things to me in desperation. I know that if he constantly tells me how sorry he is, randomly. and constantly describes what he wants our future to be like, and tells me how special I am and how much i mean to him, then that will be all it takes to keep me by his side for the rest of our lives. Because you may notice, she will begin to show you her love a lot more, because she feels as though it is her fault and that if she was better, you wouldnt have cheated. Thats how i feel sometimes. And at that point, i analyze everything he does, ass she will most likely do. so if you do one little thing wrong, she's going to assume her insecurities about why you cheated are right. So CONSTANTLY remind her how much you love her, and do so by limiting the word "love". use other words.... and i promise you, that although it will take months, even years, your relationship is work fighting for, literally and figuratively. good luck! from the girls point of view….

it’s odd, my boyfriend, who is also 19, cheated on me last october with this girl he dated for a few weeks while we were on a break last year. TELL HER! he had maybe 4 beers tops that night, and wasnt even drunk. Said he used a condom but i dont believe him…. Honestly, you NEED to tell her. I was told over facebook by the girl he cheated on me with. And the only reason I am on here now is because whenever he is away on work, I look up ways to get over it.

It broke my heart, we were just about to move in together, and now that we have I can keep better track of him…. but I hate that I feel the need to do so now. finding out by the girl, honestly still makes me cry. I have always been a very strong person, and this honestly hurts more than you know. I still dont know if he gave me anything, I suspect maybe, but even after all of his apologies, he still hasnt gotten tested.

You’re girlfriend will most likely forgive you, but I have come very close to leaving tyler a few times since then. It took him getting on his knees before me in tears begging me to stay and describing our future together, to get me to stay. And i still wish he would say all of those things more often. Honestly if she forgives you, show her how much you love her every chance you get! It still breaks my heart that I have to threaten leaving him in order to get him to say those sweet things to me in desperation.

I know that if he constantly tells me how sorry he is, randomly. and constantly describes what he wants our future to be like, and tells me how special I am and how much i mean to him, then that will be all it takes to keep me by his side for the rest of our lives.

Because you may notice, she will begin to show you her love a lot more, because she feels as though it is her fault and that if she was better, you wouldnt have cheated. Thats how i feel sometimes. And at that point, i analyze everything he does, ass she will most likely do. so if you do one little thing wrong, she’s going to assume her insecurities about why you cheated are right. So CONSTANTLY remind her how much you love her, and do so by limiting the word “love”. use other words…. and i promise you, that although it will take months, even years, your relationship is work fighting for, literally and figuratively.

good luck!

]]> By: Polly http://www.staying-alive.org/en/2010/03/i-cheated-on-my-girlfriend-help/comment-page-1/#comment-144 Polly Tue, 23 Mar 2010 13:13:57 +0000 http://www.staying-alive.org/en/?p=441#comment-144 why do you want to tell your girlfriend? that's your own guilt you want to appease. get tested first of all to make sure you haven't given her anything but depending on when you did this, you might not even be able to detect if you do have anything. telling her will hurt her and potentially end your relationship - if you know it was a one time only thing then don't tell her. but if you think your friends will tell her (which makes me wonder what type of friends you have) then you better tell her before she finds out from someone else. you'll just have to spend the rest of your time with her making it up with her, without her knowing why... why do you want to tell your girlfriend? that’s your own guilt you want to appease. get tested first of all to make sure you haven’t given her anything but depending on when you did this, you might not even be able to detect if you do have anything.
telling her will hurt her and potentially end your relationship – if you know it was a one time only thing then don’t tell her. but if you think your friends will tell her (which makes me wonder what type of friends you have) then you better tell her before she finds out from someone else. you’ll just have to spend the rest of your time with her making it up with her, without her knowing why…

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