Comments on: I cheated on my girlfriend – help!

By: aj

aj — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 15:55:28 +0000

I need some third party perspective on my situation. I am a 24 year old female, I have been with my guy for a little over a year now. When I first moved in I was unpacking my stuff and in the nightstand in the bottom drawer there was a small three pack box of condoms. There was two of three there, that was over 10 months ago. So, I made note of it and left them there. We have never used condoms I figured they were from is single days so no big deal, whatever. Well recently he has been acting really fucking nuts, I’ll ask him when he is coming home from work because i will be making dinner, and he will just act really defensive. Anyway, last night I finally got up the courage to look in the drawer to see if they were still there…..they werent. there are a lot of other signs as to why I got curious in the first place. I am highly affectionate, physical if you know what i mean I cook, I clean, I work my ass off, help with bills anything he needs. I’m no push over by any means, and do not get pissy every time he has to go to work. I am not your stereotypical female. But I need advice, should I talk to him? Calmy? ask him to just explain? Please both men, and woman are more than welcome to give me some adice I would like to hear both sides! Thanks!

By: anonymous

anonymous — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 07:14:06 +0000

Literally JUST cheated on my gf of two years, and afterwards the girl flipped out bc she wanted to be with me. Now shes threatening to tell my girlfriend. I may be fucked.

By: beencheatedon

beencheatedon — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 09:58:41 +0000

I just want to start off by saying that I am going to give you advice from her perspective. My boyfriend of a year and 3 or 4 months cheated on me. I found out about a month ago that he had been cheating on me with another girl the whole time we’d been together. At this point, we had been living together and I had moved out of state to be with him, and then we moved in. I was so devistated that he would do such a thing, especially after I told him I loved him. When I found out, I cried for days, and I wanted to die, I felt like it was MY fault he had cheated. As if I wasn’t a good enough partner for him, so he had a relationship on the side or something. I questioned everything he’d ever said to me, I questioned whether or not he really loved me. But then I decided that I couldn’t persue this crying and questionning, I had to either leave him, or stay. I decided that he deserved another chance, also because I couldn’t be without him, he was the love of my life. I told him, if I so much as suspect that you’re cheating again, it’s over, no questions asked. And he agreed, and things have been slowly starting to patch up, but let me tell you, it’s really hard to trust someone after something like that. So if she does take you back, you make her feel like you want to feel. Make her feel like she’s the only girl on the planet and she’s all yours. Make her feel like you will never even LOOK at another woman in the way you look at her. If you feel as strongly about her as I do about my boyfriend, you won’t want another person. You want them, and only them, they are the missing part of you and without them you feel this empty void that only they can fill and make you feel happy and whole again. You tell her what she means to you. You’ve only got one life on this planet, don’t mess it up with the one person you want to be with for the rest of it. I know I won’t.

By: Steven Brooks

Steven Brooks — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 13:34:05 +0000

Its a difficult situation my instinct would be to keep it to myself if she won’t find out and you really love her what is the point in upsetting her, on the other hand if you think she will find out then maybe you should come clean about it at least that way you will have a chance to explain that it meant nothing to you and that you love her and are sorry, really whatever you do is not going to be easy and the guilt that you feel may translate into you not trusting her because if what you have done, and you will find it hard to explain this to her unless you tell her why. Also know that she may not want to talk to you for a while and she may go out and sleep with someone else to get back at you, if she does cut contact then you just have to try to talk to her when you can and tell her you miss her and that you are sorry, that’s all…best of luck

By: Wow.

Wow. — Mon, 26 Dec 2011 05:29:49 +0000

You’re a dick. What the hell is wrong with you?

By: Jeff

Jeff — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 18:34:22 +0000

Hey man im in the same position. Got wasted one night hooked up with some girl i dindt even have to try with. Came back the next day and told my girl right away. Worst mistake of my life. Im soo madly in love with this girl been trying so hard to get her back. But i think she just wants to forget me. But I will try till I die to get this girl back in my life. Good luck man and wish me luck its a rough road ahead. Just gotta be strong.

By: Summer

Summer — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 12:27:51 +0000

I was cheated on the night before last, my (ex) boyfriend went out on a christmas work do. I joked before he went about the amount of girls there will be there in cocktail dresses and such. Then the next morning, after having a perfectly normal conversation to him prior on the phone – I recieved a text from my friend who knows him telling me that he cheated. I wasnt entirely sure at first. He had always been overprotective with me and didnt want me to even go and meet another guy. But I was told that he went back to a girls apartment with a tonn of people and had sex with someone. I was so horrified when I heard but all I wanted to do was know the facts. He wasnt going to admitt it to me and all he kept asking was to tell him who told me. I managed to get hold of the girls number and I spoke to her on the phone. I explained that I had nothing against her and I understand that she wouldnt have known anything. He’s told me how ashamed of himself he is and that he loves me. I care about him so much but I dont know if I can get back with him. It makes me sick knowing that he probably woke up next to her. And I dont know how I would ever be able to trust him again. I feel so disorientated and shocked. What you need to understand is that the initial reaction of someone thats been cheated on will be total disbelief. This is the first time I’ve ever been cheated on and its the worst feeling in the world. You need to give her atleast a month before you talk to her and when you do, dont talk about it directly. Dont tell her how sorry you are that it happened. You should tell her that you love her. Thats all everyone wants in the end anyway, isnt it?

By: Bogado

Bogado — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 03:19:17 +0000

Don’t tell her, if there is no chance of her finding out…first of all it will do nothing, sure you will feel better but it will just destroy your girlfriend and give her trust issues for the rest of her life, so if I were you I would rather you keep it to yourself and learn from it…don’t do it again, if you do again then its time to let her go

By: Peter

Peter — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 19:55:24 +0000

Yeah man, I am in the same situation. There are two options really; tell her and risk that she’ll dump you over a stupid mistake you made, or don’t tell her and live with the guilt, but be with her. I might be an asshole, but I’d rather still be an asshole that’s still with the girl he loves than be a good guy that lost the girl of his dreams over a drunk act of stupidity.

By: Anthony

Anthony — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 22:59:29 +0000

i have posted on this before and i cheated on my girlfriend and i got her back which I’m happy about but there’s one thing happening now my best friend is constantly flirting with her and i think she is as well to and shes asking me why I’m I not speaking to him anymore and saying it as if I am the bad guy and like shes on his side I’m afraid to tell her what I’m thinking to argue and lose her again .