1. Cordin says:

   October 26, 2011 at 6:02 pm

   Man tell her you love her don’t you i just let my relationship fly cause i didnt tell my girl what had happen of a one night stand me and my girl been together 8 years i mean i am not married but i love and care for her get tested thats first cuz girl’s and nigggas out here nasty…………good luck
2. Cordin Mcbryant says:

   October 26, 2011 at 6:04 pm

   Go get tested and tell yo girl the truth
3. Cordin Mcbryant says:

   October 26, 2011 at 6:05 pm

   love
4. Charlie says:

   October 29, 2011 at 2:19 pm

   I cheated on her when I was blackout drunk. I barely remember it but my friend apparently saw it and so did one other girl. I didnt believe it until these two people came up to me and told me about it. I broke down in tears last night and told her on a beach and she reacted really badly. I dont know if were gonna get back together, I love her so much and just want to be with her. When I told her that, she said she didnt believe me. I am an asshole and made a stupid mistake. I fucked up I just fucked up. Id give anything to get her back and am gonna fight so hard to get her back. Good luck kids
5. Dave says:

   November 4, 2011 at 8:23 am

   I’ve been dating my gf on and off for 6 years. I love her to death and she absolutely knows it. I came back from deployment (We weren’t dating while I was away) and I find out she is pregnant. I told her I didn’t care, I would raise the child as my own. Well unfortunately being deployed to Iraq for a year I didn’t get much action at all. I came back and expected to get some from my lover, unfortunately this was not the case. I needed something so bad that I hung out with a friend who I had flirted with over the deployment and made out and got a bj. I stopped us after that and was just horrified with myself. I had never cheated before, but I just wanted something, anything. I was receiving no affection after two months of being home from Iraq. I love my girl dearly, and will be telling her next week of what happened. I pray she understands. If not, I’ll be getting what I deserve. Good luck to all of you, prayers would be appreciated. Thanks!
6. Sophie Carter says:

   November 4, 2011 at 5:03 pm

   Show your girlfriend the respect she deserves and tell her the truth. At leas that way she’ll be able to come to her own decision about you relationship, with all the facts at hand. And strap on a pair and stop blaming your friends for not stopping you from going home with another girl – grow up and take some responsibility for your own actions instead of trying to hide behind what is actually a very cowardly act. You’re ridiculous.
7. ... says:

   November 6, 2011 at 11:55 am

   Why should you care? Obviously you don’t care about her or you wouldn’t have cheated on her… It’s called self control. You should try getting it…
8. BigDave says:

   November 11, 2011 at 2:21 am

   EVERYBODY LIES!!!!!
9. bobby says:

   November 14, 2011 at 11:35 pm

   DO NOT have sex with her until you get tested and she knows about this…for now…just tell your gf that there is something wrong you want to tell her about…but you some time….tell her that as sad as you’ll be you’ll understand and expect any reaction from her…tell her that you love her very much but made a huge mistake…say you are afraid of losing her…but don’t want to hurt her or be dishonest with her…..if it helps write down on a piece of paper what happened(just don’t make it long)…and hand it to her…….
10. listen here says:

    November 15, 2011 at 9:32 am

    A man once said, “To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.”
    That doesn’t make love less important though.
    It means all relationships are built on trust. If the trust is loosened, lost, or broken, your relationship is pretty much that way as well.
    If you try to hide it from her…ok, you know she’s gonna find out. And that will hurt her more.
    Tell her the truth, straight up, if you don’t want to damage this any further. You will have to face the consequences though, and there will be.
11. Kay says:

    November 20, 2011 at 5:45 pm

    I have done the same thing as you, and I just the exact same dilemma. I do love my girlfriend and we have been living together for over a year now. Problem is that we had.. down time in a relationship and my weakness drove me away to release myself elsewhere. This lead to a girl at a pub, who was more than interested spending night in a hotel. Next morning I didnt know what to do.. and i choose the worst, since by that time i was already drunk for two days, i continued the next day with this girl. Which simply ended up with a two night stand and a terrible guilt that i have to face. I haven’t seen my girlfriend for 4 days now, where 3 of them i spend in bars. pubs and clubs being extremely self destructive. I am extremely lost at this very moment..If you solved your problem, maybe you can as well share a tip with me.
12. codisha22 says:

    December 1, 2011 at 4:06 pm

    i had been with my bf for a year and six months and i never thought he would cheat on me after everything i did for him after he knew how much i loved him i never thought it would happen well after about eleven months we broke up over stupid shit and it gave my mom a HUGE reason to hate him , well she didnt want me to be with him anymore.. so i broke up with him unforgtunately it was the harfdest thing i have ever did in my life well about two months after that i told him i wanted to get back together so we did well about a month after that i found out he had another gf but he says we never got back together … so would you consider that cheating?
13. a.h says:

    December 5, 2011 at 7:04 pm

    Well man if i were u & u love her then dont tell her, jus keep it to your self n let that guilt be your punishment..this too happened to me as well n feeling soooo guilty was horrible& i couldnt believe how much of an idiot iwas,but think about it wisely..do u think telling her is gna make u 2 breakup? Is it worth losing her over this matter? I know u feel guilty but dont soak it up and consume it, just let it be,just let the guilt leave on its own…trust me i know you can. every one of us commit mistakes&we learn based from what we go through &also through what we realize. But bottom line..dont tell her..just really really try hard&keep it to yourself…much luck!
14. Anthony says:

    December 9, 2011 at 10:59 pm

    i have posted on this before and i cheated on my girlfriend and i got her back which I’m happy about but there’s one thing happening now my best friend is constantly flirting with her and i think she is as well to and shes asking me why I’m I not speaking to him anymore and saying it as if I am the bad guy and like shes on his side I’m afraid to tell her what I’m thinking to argue and lose her again .
15. Peter says:

    December 10, 2011 at 7:55 pm

    Yeah man, I am in the same situation. There are two options really; tell her and risk that she’ll dump you over a stupid mistake you made, or don’t tell her and live with the guilt, but be with her. I might be an asshole, but I’d rather still be an asshole that’s still with the girl he loves than be a good guy that lost the girl of his dreams over a drunk act of stupidity.
16. Bogado says:

    December 16, 2011 at 3:19 am

    Don’t tell her, if there is no chance of her finding out…first of all it will do nothing, sure you will feel better but it will just destroy your girlfriend and give her trust issues for the rest of her life, so if I were you I would rather you keep it to yourself and learn from it…don’t do it again, if you do again then its time to let her go
17. Summer says:

    December 17, 2011 at 12:27 pm

    I was cheated on the night before last, my (ex) boyfriend went out on a christmas work do. I joked before he went about the amount of girls there will be there in cocktail dresses and such. Then the next morning, after having a perfectly normal conversation to him prior on the phone – I recieved a text from my friend who knows him telling me that he cheated. I wasnt entirely sure at first. He had always been overprotective with me and didnt want me to even go and meet another guy. But I was told that he went back to a girls apartment with a tonn of people and had sex with someone. I was so horrified when I heard but all I wanted to do was know the facts. He wasnt going to admitt it to me and all he kept asking was to tell him who told me. I managed to get hold of the girls number and I spoke to her on the phone. I explained that I had nothing against her and I understand that she wouldnt have known anything. He’s told me how ashamed of himself he is and that he loves me. I care about him so much but I dont know if I can get back with him. It makes me sick knowing that he probably woke up next to her. And I dont know how I would ever be able to trust him again. I feel so disorientated and shocked. What you need to understand is that the initial reaction of someone thats been cheated on will be total disbelief. This is the first time I’ve ever been cheated on and its the worst feeling in the world. You need to give her atleast a month before you talk to her and when you do, dont talk about it directly. Dont tell her how sorry you are that it happened. You should tell her that you love her. Thats all everyone wants in the end anyway, isnt it?
18. Jeff says:

    December 17, 2011 at 6:34 pm

    Hey man im in the same position. Got wasted one night hooked up with some girl i dindt even have to try with. Came back the next day and told my girl right away. Worst mistake of my life. Im soo madly in love with this girl been trying so hard to get her back. But i think she just wants to forget me. But I will try till I die to get this girl back in my life. Good luck man and wish me luck its a rough road ahead. Just gotta be strong.
19. Wow. says:

    December 26, 2011 at 5:29 am

    You’re a dick. What the hell is wrong with you?
20. Steven Brooks says:

    January 4, 2012 at 1:34 pm

    Its a difficult situation my instinct would be to keep it to myself if she won’t find out and you really love her what is the point in upsetting her, on the other hand if you think she will find out then maybe you should come clean about it at least that way you will have a chance to explain that it meant nothing to you and that you love her and are sorry, really whatever you do is not going to be easy and the guilt that you feel may translate into you not trusting her because if what you have done, and you will find it hard to explain this to her unless you tell her why. Also know that she may not want to talk to you for a while and she may go out and sleep with someone else to get back at you, if she does cut contact then you just have to try to talk to her when you can and tell her you miss her and that you are sorry, that’s all…best of luck
21. beencheatedon says:

    January 12, 2012 at 9:58 am

    I just want to start off by saying that I am going to give you advice from her perspective. My boyfriend of a year and 3 or 4 months cheated on me. I found out about a month ago that he had been cheating on me with another girl the whole time we’d been together. At this point, we had been living together and I had moved out of state to be with him, and then we moved in. I was so devistated that he would do such a thing, especially after I told him I loved him. When I found out, I cried for days, and I wanted to die, I felt like it was MY fault he had cheated. As if I wasn’t a good enough partner for him, so he had a relationship on the side or something. I questioned everything he’d ever said to me, I questioned whether or not he really loved me. But then I decided that I couldn’t persue this crying and questionning, I had to either leave him, or stay. I decided that he deserved another chance, also because I couldn’t be without him, he was the love of my life. I told him, if I so much as suspect that you’re cheating again, it’s over, no questions asked. And he agreed, and things have been slowly starting to patch up, but let me tell you, it’s really hard to trust someone after something like that. So if she does take you back, you make her feel like you want to feel. Make her feel like she’s the only girl on the planet and she’s all yours. Make her feel like you will never even LOOK at another woman in the way you look at her. If you feel as strongly about her as I do about my boyfriend, you won’t want another person. You want them, and only them, they are the missing part of you and without them you feel this empty void that only they can fill and make you feel happy and whole again. You tell her what she means to you. You’ve only got one life on this planet, don’t mess it up with the one person you want to be with for the rest of it. I know I won’t.
22. anonymous says:

    January 20, 2012 at 7:14 am

    Literally JUST cheated on my gf of two years, and afterwards the girl flipped out bc she wanted to be with me. Now shes threatening to tell my girlfriend. I may be fucked.
23. aj says:

    January 20, 2012 at 3:55 pm

    I need some third party perspective on my situation. I am a 24 year old female, I have been with my guy for a little over a year now. When I first moved in I was unpacking my stuff and in the nightstand in the bottom drawer there was a small three pack box of condoms. There was two of three there, that was over 10 months ago. So, I made note of it and left them there. We have never used condoms I figured they were from is single days so no big deal, whatever. Well recently he has been acting really fucking nuts, I’ll ask him when he is coming home from work because i will be making dinner, and he will just act really defensive. Anyway, last night I finally got up the courage to look in the drawer to see if they were still there…..they werent. there are a lot of other signs as to why I got curious in the first place. I am highly affectionate, physical if you know what i mean I cook, I clean, I work my ass off, help with bills anything he needs. I’m no push over by any means, and do not get pissy every time he has to go to work. I am not your stereotypical female. But I need advice, should I talk to him? Calmy? ask him to just explain? Please both men, and woman are more than welcome to give me some adice I would like to hear both sides! Thanks!

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